In life we are always judging other peoples way of doing things, we are constantly offering and getting unwarranted advise about our careers, where we live, who we date, what we wear. This is all fine and dandy since I believe the older we get the easier it is to brush off all the advise people offer.
And then one day you become a parent, the hardest job in the world. Creating a being and molding them into a productive member of society. The kind of person they will turn out to be will be all on you as a parent. You read and research, you pray, you share with friends and family on ideas, you try different things and at the end of the day all you can do is your best and hope and pray you are not raising some type of psycho.
However, every so often, their comes around someone who makes a judgement on your child and your parenting based off on one interaction. And then they will offer some unsolicited advise, about what you need to do and how you need to do it and how your current approach is completely wrong.
Being a first time mum, advise from people is common. Depending on who offers it I will take or let it go. But the advise that comes from people who don’t know you so well, or people whose kids are not the ideal kids you would want your child to grow up to always hits me hard in my core.
In parenting, I am starting to realize that no one sees all the work you put it, no one ever gives you a pat on the back. But once your child does something wrong, you will be loaded with so much advise on what you need to do.
Just like I have learned in life how to brush off what people tell me, I would really love to learn how to brush off parenting advise.
How have other parents coped with unwanted parenting advise, how do you respond to it and how do you make sure it doesn’t get to you?